Why You Should See A Couple’s Counsellor If You’re Separated

Some view a trial separation as the next step on the path to an inevitable divorce. But separation gives many couples space and distance to work through personal issues, gain clarity and de-escalate the conflict.

Just because a marriage is in a bad state, it doesn’t mean it’s broken. If separated couples use this time to seek counseling, they will gain valuable insights into whether or not divorce is the answer.

When you’ve decided to separate, both you and your spouse are likely to be extremely emotional, experiencing feelings of anger, frustration, sadness, and loss. Turning to friends and family may not help, because they are emotionally invested in your relationship, so you’re unlikely to get unbiased advice.

Visiting a couples’ counselor may be the answer because counseling will provide:

• A safe space in which to process what went wrong and examine your relationship honestly.
• An impartial mediator to guide you as you discuss the causes of your conflict and to offer guidance on new ways of communicating and behavior to resolve them.
• Advice to help you understand destructive patterns.
• A judgment-free environment in which to share and listen to the impact of specific behaviors.
• Professional guidance on how to better deal with conflict, improve communication skills and repair the marriage.
• If the marriage is irretrievably broken, a counselor can help you move forward in a healthy, more amicable way, with an understanding of what went wrong so that the same mistakes aren’t repeated in future relationships.

How to ask your spouse to go to couples’ counseling?

It’s very common for one spouse to feel more strongly about the need to seek counseling.

If fear of judgment is preventing your spouse from committing to counseling, let them speak openly about their concerns. Remind them that counseling is a judgment-free zone.

Remind your spouse that you’ve both invested a lot of energy and love into your relationship. Could either of you forgive yourselves if you just walked away without knowing you’ve made every effort to save the marriage?

At Psylegal, our team of qualified and experienced couples’ counselors will provide a safe space and professional guidance to help you resolve conflict and communicate more honestly and openly with your spouse – whatever the outcome. Call us today and make the first step towards reconciliation and healing.

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